I have a problem with saying "no" to people. I don't know how to say no when friends ask me out for lunch/dinner coz I always want to go out with them even when I have no time or money to do so. I don't know how to say no when friends ask for my help coz I always want to help people. The worst is that I don't know how to say no at work. Whenever coworkers ask me to help them out with something, I seldom turn them down no matter how busy I am or how behind I am with my own tasks. And the crap always comes when I don't know how to say no if they ask me to go into work for a shift. Not that I don't say no, it's just the way I say no stinks. Some people can say it very direct, sounding "no means no" while my no is like "no~... sorry... i can't... sorry..." The truth is I do feel sorry when I cannot help out the unit. But some people can really take advantage of my "softness" and become pushy. I hate it when people are like that. Just because someone is nice doesn't mean you can walk all over them. These people give you respect, you just don't pay them back with rudeness. How some people operate in this world is just beyond my understandings....